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QUESTIONS |
| 1. What's different about dating
now versus when you first started? |
| 2. What about age range in finding
the right MR/Mrs.? What's acceptable to you and what's not? |
| 3. How do you go about in meeting
someone, especially if you are over 30 years old, Christian, working full
time job, and be discreet about it? You don't want to put a sign on
saying, "I am single and available", and yet you don't want those married
to be their "God-given gift" to see that you meet someone and hound you
about it. |
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Answers to Question 1
What's different about
dating now versus when you first started? |
| Dating services abound, along with internet
sites for singles. Dating seems to be high-tech instead of the old
fashioned way of knocking on the door and asking someone out for dinner. |
| To be honest I have never dated. Just went out
with friends. |
| Well, when I was ten there were a lot more
single guys & now... |
| As you get older, the choice gets slimmer and
more precise in y our desire to be fulfilled in a companion. It will be
worth the wait. |
| After trying to pick up my emotions and feelings
from some disappointments, I've learned to be more specific and more
detailed in my date. (Of course, it has been less and less in the dating
now that I have made this conviction) |
| Before I always tried to be something I'm not. I
never was confident with who I was. Now, I am confident in who I am and
what I want in a dating partner. |
| I have never really dated, but from friends' experiences and my own
observations -- the choices are getting alot narrower. Many pentecostal
holiness marry so young compared to the secular world. Do they really
get to know each other? Is their marriage really God's will? |
| Finding a godly man is like finding a Walmart parking space. All the
good ones are taken and the ones left are handicapped! The older I get
the fewer the selection is getting. |
| Dating now since I have been saved is totally diffrent. I have new
views on everything and so I look for totally diffrent attributes in
guys than I ever di before. |
| Dating? What's that?...lol |
| I really haven't dated much, but I think people are getting more and
more fickle. |
| Looking back to when I first dated to now, I would have to say that
now I'm not even looking for the same type of person now as I was when I
first started dating. It's like now that I'm more mature I see a need
for more character qualities, than I did when I was younger. |
| Now I don't lol...I dated when I was 19 she broke up with me to go off
with this guy she now regrets marrying...I have not dated since, now I
am 32 and have no clue!!! |
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Answers to Question 2
What about age range in
finding the right MR/Mrs.? What's acceptable to you and what's not? |
| Ages 25&up |
| I think that is different for each and everyone.
I would say in your 20's. |
| I feel that if you are old enough to vote you
are old enough to date. |
| I feel that maturity has a lot to do with it. To
me the more older and experience, maybe wisdom, will be tremendous
contribution to the marriage. It will eleviate unneccessary disagreements
and wrong decisions that could allow damage in the marriage. |
| As long it is the right one honey, it don't
matter the age. |
| Ages 34 to 45 |
| 5 years younger or older -- but who knows? Maturity plays a big role
in it. |
| I am in my earily 30's and I would prefer a man in his mid to late
30's. Which is hard to find b/c most men that are are or have already
been married. |
| Age is a number. If it is meant to be and the right person for you
than age just doesn't play a factor. |
| I guess it depends on what age you are when you start dating...as in
age difference, two to three years is the max for me. But who am I
kidding? I don't know what dating is...right? |
| Like a preacher once said at my church--if you're old enough to date,
you should be old enough to marry. And I know some 25-year-olds that
aren't ready for marriage! |
| I would say probably mid 20's, although I'm older than that now, so
what would be acceptable to me would be more like early to mid 30's
since that is what I am. |
| I am guessing someone within 6 years of my age at the most. I don't
know how much older, I think maybe only 3 years!? |
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Answers to Question 3
How do you go about in
meeting someone, especially if you are over 30 years old, Christian,
working full time job, and be discreet about it? You don't want to
put a sign on saying, "I am single and available", and yet you don't want
those married to be their "God-given gift" to see that you meet someone
and hound you about it. |
| Find a church who offers a Christian Singles
Ministry and get involved. Finding your mate through church activities is
the best way. |
| I just pray God will send me the right one. I
try to be content in the state I'm in, even though I really would like to
get married. |
| Well I am under 30 but everthing thing I have
tried so far has not worked so you don't want my advise. If you happen to
find the solution to this problem let me know:) |
| You can't expect your spouse to drop in your
lap, so you have to go where the prospects are going to be, and be
discreet about it. It may not have to be somewhere spiritual all the time,
because it may be meeting someone at a family get together, something not
as stressful but easy and laid back. I know that I feel tensed when I know
that I am going to attend to a campmeeting, revival,etc. because some
people may wonder if you're there for the right reason. Yes, I know!!!!
Quit worrying about what people thinks or says about you. But, sometimes I
wonder myself. |
| Family comes into the picture here. They should
be able to help us more since they are around us the most, and help with
finding the right one. They're called the "single-spiritual-
search-squad." Hah!!!! |
| I don't know! To be honest, that could be why am
still single. |
| Church-related activities would seem the obvious answer, but (even
though I'm under 30) that tactic doesn't seem to be working for me,
so.... |
| Well, once I stop crying because I am single, I try to go to events
planned out for singles. Church, Revivals, Retreats, whatever. If I see
someone that interest me, I find myself staring. Hah! Then I ask others
about him. If he is single then I make myself known to him. I may sit
near him, greet him. Chit chat with him to see if he returns an
interest. I may Ask him to visit over cafe mocha or something like that.
I may even get my married friends to help plan an even where the two of
us may 'bump' into eachother again. I welcome most Yentas. Sometimes it
bothers me b/c my friends and family seem more desprate than me to get
me married. I do chat with friends I meet through other friends on
christin single sites or on places like Bebo. |
| I just meet people as I go. I figure in the right time and place I
will meet the one God has for me! |
| How should I know? I'm not 30 yet. |
| In order to meet a Godly companion, you'll have to be in the right
place at the right time. So pray for guidance! And be yourself--the
person you truly are on the inside. |
| Since I'm over 30 and haven't found anyone yet myself I don't think I
can answer this question very well. I have tried church, and Bible
school, those didn't work for me, but he is out there somewhere, so I
just keep waiting for God's timing to bring us together. I do pray for
him and me, that while we wait God will prepare us for each other. I
also pray for him even though I don't know who he is, he still needs
prayer. I think that it is very important to pray for your future
spouse. |
| Why do I feel like the word discreet in this question feels more like
deceiving? You have to appear deceiving about it I guess is why!!! lol
Holiness people are nosy, and when you are in your 30's (especially)
everyone in the church knows you are single and are always nosy about if
you like someone. You have to put out the vibe. Take the initive...all
this from a single guy!!! lol |
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